RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 18, 2018 at 1:41 pm
(This post was last modified: January 18, 2018 at 1:42 pm by Edwardo Piet.)
(January 18, 2018 at 1:36 pm)polymath257 Wrote:(January 18, 2018 at 1:25 pm)Hammy Wrote: Asking "may I please touch your vagina" would kill the entire mood.
And what if she's the submissive type and likes to be told what to do DURING sex?
If she had to permit everything that would turn her off because she's submissive and doesn't want to have to tell the guy what to do.
The point is that once sex starts.... sex has started. To stop it... you say "stop".
Then maybe they have to agree on a safe word ahead of time, eh? Or communicate about rules of conduct. True dom/sub relationships tend to communicate enough that this isn't an issue. But if that is going on in the *first date* without previous conversation, the alarm bells should be ringing off the hook.
A safe word is used to mean "stop". Not to mean "keep going". You're proving my point.
If the safety word in a d/s relationship is "banana"... it would be really odd (and impossible) for the woman to constantly say "banana" during sex including the times between breathes that she is unable to speak and yet isn't feeling that it's banana time no more before changing her mind again a split second later.