RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 18, 2018 at 1:49 pm
(This post was last modified: January 18, 2018 at 1:51 pm by Edwardo Piet.)
(January 18, 2018 at 1:41 pm)Tizheruk Wrote:Quote:Asking "may I please touch your vagina" would kill the entire mood.Yes because you staying in the mood is most important issue here .
No it isn't (although actually, yes, it is if I'm my not staying in the mood means I no longer consent). The most important issue here is what consent actually is. Who cares whether I'm in the mood for sex or not (unless I'm actually going to tell the other person to stop). The point is that if people are going to have sex then they have to be in the mood... and it's not necessary to kill the mood with affirmative consent nonsense if the other person has already consented by not saying stop when sex has already began.
What's next? "May I keep touching your vagina? Are you having doubts about letting me touch your vagina? Do you still want me to touch your vagina? Was that facial expression doubts about me touching your vagina? What that a cue for you to not want me to touch it anymore? And by "it" I mean your vagina."
I would expect her response would most likely be something like "Well I'm certainly not in the mood now that you've said all that weird shit."
The way you're describing consent... sounds far creepier.