RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 18, 2018 at 1:58 pm
(This post was last modified: January 18, 2018 at 1:59 pm by Shell B.)
(January 18, 2018 at 1:48 pm)J a c k Wrote:(January 18, 2018 at 1:18 pm)Shell B Wrote: You know what, who knows? It's a small sample size, but CL is a Catholic and hasn't been assaulted. I'm a lifelong atheist and have on many occasions. I guarantee I wouldn't have been if I had thought spending time with men alone drinking in my teens was a detriment to my spiritual life. It wouldn't have stopped all of the things that happened to me in my life, but it would have stopped all but 2 of them. I'm not saying I'd offer the same argument, but she's not entirely wrong when she says it would have prevented this situation.
A preacher was my first attacker. He had access to my friend’s room anytime he wanted. I was in it often.
As an adult, I was working. I was a fanatical Christian. I wasn’t even on a date.
I was living in a Bible institute when I was locked away for two months. The things I experienced there I have never talked about entirely. I probably never will.
I grew up as the daughter of ministers. Church was everything. Everyone I know who was molested or raped was attacked by someone who was either a family member or a church member.
Her argument could prevent some situations, but so could not going to church, or not visiting family, or not going to work at night, etc. I understand why she feels that way, though. I used to think the same way.
I'm sorry you went through that. I was never arguing that it was a solution (nor would I), but that it could, as I demonstrated, prevent some situations. All of that said, she was never suggesting it as a cure for sexual assault, as I read it.
