Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist

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Affirmative consent isn’t based on the idea that every sexual encounter is a rigid contract between two parties. No one is suggesting that college students need to run through a checklist before unbuttoning each other’s shirts. Instead, it’s more about broadly reorienting about how we approach sex in the first place.

Is it saying that what we call normal consensual sex is neither normal nor consensual?

 
I don't know what you consider to be normal and consensual. I usually try communication and clarity instead of pushing and coercion. For me, that is normal and consensual.

It actually is fairly easy most of the time: don't make assumptions, go slow enough that you can get proper feedback, ask if unsure, etc.

Mixed signals can still happen, but being nice instead of a jerk goes along, long way.