Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist

[polymath257]

Seriously?  You seriously believe that when two people are mauling each other, grinding hips, and making out passionately, they should stop to ask permission before touching the other person between the legs?  That’s the most absurd thing I’ve ever heard, lol.

Yup because passionately making out  and even grinding does not translate to . "touch my dick " You can do all that and not want someone to do that .

From what I can see, a LOT here has to do with how we perceive non-verbal clues, how fast things progress, and whether those clues are respected when recognized.

So, for example, if a woman and I were making out and grinding, ans she *tentatively* moved to touch my dick, I would see that as OK *if* when I moved away she accepted that as 'no thank you'. But *grabbing* is way different than a tentative exploration.

In the same situation, if I moved towards the genitals (says, the mons) and she draws back, that is a sign that she is not interested. But, especially in a first encounter, I would not *grab*.

Does *verbal* agreement need to be procured? I don't think so. But awareness and respect for those non-verbal clues (especially those that go against what you want) is part of the game. Again, going slowly enough that there is an opportunity to draw back is part of the progression. Let's face it, if my hand is moving to the mons and the woman pulls away, that is *hugely* different than pushing the mons into my hand. And how about simply listening? if she is saying 'yes, yes', that is quite different than being quiet or tense.

That said, it is easy to get mixed signals, especially with new people. The first few times, you are learning how this new person's body responds, how they respond, etc. Asking and making sure they are on board is a good thing.