Adopting Children of Another Race

[Edwardo Piet]

Sort of. That, and do those children sometimes have negative feelings about it later in life? Do these opinions affect them? Do they themselves resent not having more of their racial heritage in their lives? Do they not care and are just happy to have a loving family? I'm curious about all of these things.

In all honesty, it will depend on the child. Some children may be affected by the things said, some children may not be sensitive to it. Some of them may resent not having their racial heritage, some of them may not care about that. It will really depend on the individual kid.

I know that's not a very helpful answer but it really is a very individual thing. There will definitely be some children who are very affected, even psychologically scarred by that stuff, and there will definitely be some children who won't even bat an eyelid. And everything in-between.

I mean.... kind of like how kids react to being told, or finding out that Santa Claus isn't real. All 4 of my brothers and sisters didn't care. I however, got really mad and resented my parents for it. And still sometimes find it hard to shake those feelings now even know I know they're irrational at this point because my parents were just being normal parents. At the time I felt utterly betrayed and lied to and like I could never trust my parents ever again. My brothers and sisters didn't react like that at all.

So, similarly to how children react to things like that... I think it's a purely individual thing.

Just like adults, children are all different and they're all sensitive or not sensitive to different things.

So I guess the best bet is getting to know the kid a bit as some uncle-like or auntie-like figure before adopting them!

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For the record, I’ve never considered having my “own” children. Adoption has been the only thing I’ve even considered. I’m not even sure about that.

Me and my brother can relate. Both of us say we'd only ever have children if we were adopting. And we reached the same conclusions independently for the same reasons.

I have no idea what you reason is, but our reason is that we don't think it's a good thing per se to bring another life into this world... with what this world is like. But there are children out there who really need parents, and fostering them definitely is a good thing.