Adopting Children of Another Race

[Sterben]

If you bring any child of any race into your home and love them and support them and treat them as your own offspring, you have made a person's life infinitely better, and anyone who tries to question your motivation can be dismissed summarily.

I do not, however, think that race and skin color has zero effect on the child or the consideration of adoption. As a mixed race kid myself (not adopted, mind you), life is different in a lot of ways. There are so many preconceived notions to deal with, so many questions that you have to answer that other people don't, so many things that my father had to prepare me for that white people don't even have on their radar. Brown people have two "the talks." One for sex, and one about how to be a brown woman/man in America. It's a thing. Look it up.

I say this only to bring up the idea that it's not the same. Fuck anyone who would try to say a person adopted a black/Asian/Latin/etc child for some nefarious or selfish reason. People don't do that. If they do they are extreme outliers. I would ascribe this to manufactured internet outrage. But adopting a brown kid and pretending that his/her skin color doesn't matter is perhaps just as shortsighted as presuming someone's intentions. It matters. Being brown presents a set of challenges that white people don't have experience with, and this is important to realize and recognize.

     Being of any color has it's pros and cons, it's the assumptions about a culture that is dangerous. I'm has white as can be(according to my family history, going back to 1800's) but I don't regard my race has an advantage personally, on the other hand though people of a different skin tone still assume common white social traits and associate them to me. Which annoys the shit out me; as for me caring too much as I've gotten older it bothers me less. As long as the parents who adopt a mix race child and tries to give the best life possible; that is something every child of any background deserves in some sense.

     I don't discount your tale of the "Two Talks", and it's a shame in the twent-first century we're still having this issue. At least for the meantime, we are making progress in the social status of the taboo of mixed race relationships, and having mixed children.