Perhaps the threads should be merged? I mean...I think the POLL is excellent .....so I don't think we need one without a poll now...maybe merge the other one with this poll one?
Oh and Kyu....options open means BOTH options open...not biased towards an 'escape route' you CAN stay longer WITHOUT commitment than with...it just means something like...if your parter can 'just leave at any moment' that's not a bad things...because it's their choice and it's up to them...
You have compassion but you're not attached....
Love is excellent...but sometimes it has a lot of bullshit attached to it as a by-product I think....just cos that's how love is often commonly expressed....
But I've learned anything in life it's that what's common does NOT mean it's better...I mean look at religion (just as an example, I'm in no way comparing the two other than using it as an example) - that's fucking common and it's bullshit....
I think love commonly has a lot of confusing shit attached to it and people often say things like "Well that's love for you.", "That's love" but is it? Or is it just the bullshit ATTACHED to love that often causes problems in the relationship between two mortal higher apes?
And since you have copy/pasted your piece Kyu, I'll copy paste mine:
Oh and Kyu....options open means BOTH options open...not biased towards an 'escape route' you CAN stay longer WITHOUT commitment than with...it just means something like...if your parter can 'just leave at any moment' that's not a bad things...because it's their choice and it's up to them...
You have compassion but you're not attached....
Love is excellent...but sometimes it has a lot of bullshit attached to it as a by-product I think....just cos that's how love is often commonly expressed....
But I've learned anything in life it's that what's common does NOT mean it's better...I mean look at religion (just as an example, I'm in no way comparing the two other than using it as an example) - that's fucking common and it's bullshit....
I think love commonly has a lot of confusing shit attached to it and people often say things like "Well that's love for you.", "That's love" but is it? Or is it just the bullshit ATTACHED to love that often causes problems in the relationship between two mortal higher apes?
And since you have copy/pasted your piece Kyu, I'll copy paste mine:
EvF Wrote:At the end of the day I just think 'commitment' (unless the couple is staying just for the kids) is overrated. Because I think if people truly care about each other they will be able to stay together without 'making a commitment' which just seems superficial and kind of...dare I say...unworthy to me lol.
