(April 16, 2018 at 12:46 pm)Minimalist Wrote: Well said, Brian, but it is also necessary to face up to the reality that dementia can interfere with the ability of a person to make that decision. That's why a Living Will is so important to make your desires known while you are still mentally competent enough to state them.
My mom was fully lucid when she made that final decision. I agree though, it is about preparation.
She had with prior surgeries for other things said that she wasn't going to do anything again. As much as it hurt me, that last time, considering what she said before and her age, I completely understood..
Even in a lucid state, at that age, I can fully understand why anyone would say to themselves " Yea, I could try, but what is my quality going to be like?"
I think even after that last decision by her, she hung on, just to give me comfort. I know she was ultimately saying to me, "I love you Brian, I can't stick around, but I love you."
