RE: 1st Call for Christian Only Debate: Our Role on AF
May 2, 2018 at 6:00 pm
(This post was last modified: May 2, 2018 at 6:01 pm by vulcanlogician.)
(May 2, 2018 at 5:38 pm)MysticKnight Wrote: Yet, when I use to talk with a softer tone and pick words wisely like "I feel that..." etc, people attacked me for not having a tone of certainty. Even when I clarified, it's for the sake of etiquette I do so, people said I should not because it makes as if I am not even convinced of my own arguments.
You are damned if you and damned if you don't.
That's true, MK, and I can personally relate to what you're saying.
Uncertainty is more honest, yet people don't trust it. People trust certainty, and will be more apt to believe in you... even when it is merely posturing. You're screwed either way.
I kind of came to this compromise (not saying it will gel with you): When trying to win friends, influence people, get a job, or get laid--project certainty.
When trying to understand that which is not readily apparent, or having an honest discussion in order to get closer to the truth--admit uncertainty.
The thing is if you are posturing and somebody recognizes it for what it is--that's your problem.
But if you are actually uncertain about something and someone rejects it because they need someone who appears certain--that's their problem.
(Just my 2 cents. Not really like I have it all sorted out or anything...)
