Civility subsection suggestion

[Catholic_Lady]

I really wasn't intending for this idea to be turned into people insinuating that I need a safe zone or that I'm a "snow flake". Neither am I meaning to complain about these forums or give off the impression that I cant take the heat or whatever. I don't get tore up about the shit posts, I just find them tedious and disruptive, and thought it might be a cool idea to have a single added section reserved for civil discussion for those who would be interested.

Anyway, it's not that big of a deal. I would have dropped this a while ago, but felt encouraged again when Mr Steel asked me to brainstorm some guidelines. But if this isn't a welcome idea, it's no problem lol. I'm certainly not meaning to turn this into an argument.

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The reason I'm not putting much effort into my responses to you, Jo, is because I feel you are being disingenuous and obtuse on purpose.

"Christian" is, by definition, not a nasty word. Same as the word "chair" is not a nasty word. If people want to be offended by the word chair because it's nasty "to them", I would say that's their problem. With that being said, if someone finds a way to use those to words in a manner that is clearly meant to insult or provoke the other person, I would say that is breaking the spirit of the rule.

Same goes for if you tell someone "you sound like a dickwad", you are not "technically" calling them a dickwad. But if the rules of a forum are to be civil, not fling shit, not name call, and not cuss someones out, telling someone they "sound like a dickwad" and then saying "well, I said he's acting like a dickwad not that he is one!" ... that is still breaking the spirit of the rule and is thus still disallowed.

If a particular person has a hard time with this and intends on purposely pushing boundaries and skirting the rules, I would say that section is not for them. They can either not join, or they do join and promptly get kicked out when they can't manage to follow suit. No harm, no foul. The whole rest of the forum is still there and the same for them to use.

I assure you, I am not being disingenuous. I might be wrong, that's entirely possible, but I'm being genuine. I'm not usually a fan of exclusive clubs and that's how I see this. We're going to decide what's offensive or insulting in here and if you don't like it, we'll kick you out of our special area and you'll just have to grovel with the commoners in the, gasp, low rent area of the forum. Yeah, not a fan of that.

I'm guessing that's probably not at all your perception of what you're suggesting, but that's how I imagine it going. Like I said, I could be wrong on that, but its how I see it.

However in the interest of not furthering pointless discussions and/or trying to stop freight trains that I can't control, I will take the same approach I took with the last presidential election. I've stated my concerns, the other side still insists I'm wrong so I say go ahead and do what you want. If it works, great. If it doesn't and my fears become reality, I won't say I told you so. I'll just quietly shrug and tell myself that this is the reality the majority wanted and who am I to question it.

That is fair enough.