(June 1, 2018 at 4:23 am)Libertarian God Wrote: I ask a friend of mine out on a date she says she will have to think about it because she recently returned from a year long service project and is having difficulty adjusting. Now, I think she is just not that interested. I have consulted others and they have told me that I am not entitled to know the reason why. Even though i think it's fair if she would just tell me straight up she isn't interested. I mean I have tried being persistent. I have talked to her about it twice, and she throws out the same response. I don't want to harass her, but part of me thinks that she should just be straight up and tell me I'm not interested. Would it be too much for me to say this? I mean it's not going to hurt my feelings if she does. I would also let her know that too.
Also, as someone who is normally shy and constantly being told that's my problem this is a big deal for me. I'm actually trying to grow some balls and stick up for myself, don't women like that?
I trust your wisdom on this. I'm not trying to be a dick either.
IMO, as a man, if one is willing to initiate interactions with women for the sole purpose of asking them out, then that individual needs to make peace with the fact that there will be rejections and that they'll need to be shrugged off accordingly and not taken personally. From my vantage point, if I lived in a culture where women primarily initiated contact with men due to physical attraction/romantic interest, then it seems likely that I'd reject a certain percentage of those advances based on personality, compatibility, interests, etc. Hence, IMO, it seems reasonable to extend this same understanding and courtesy to those women who'd reject me, as their rejections probably boil down to personal tastes/interests, which is something that I cannot control, nor is it something that I should lose confidence over.
That said, I wish you well with your romantic endeavors, sir.
