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Peterson's 12 Rules For Life, have you heard of this?
RE: Peterson's 12 Rules For Life, have you heard of this?
(August 15, 2018 at 9:44 pm)Khemikal Wrote: I feel untouchable.  You feel afraid.  What explains that disparity?
Mainly Korean immigration laws.  It takes up to 6 weeks to process a new employee, and a lot of harm can come when classes are without a teacher for that length of time (obviously).  But the insecurity isn't so much about dealing with the people-- I've learned my lesson, and I will kick a fucker to the curb if they aren't going to do the job, as outlined in the contract and as I direct them to do it.  The insecurity is about the timing of my goals-- getting a fuckhead employee is a fairly random event, and is pretty hard to filter out in the interview process.  This means that the success of my business, and indirectly of my plans for my children's transition to Canada and so on, are partly RNG.  And nobody fucking likes RNG.

Imaging you're playing LOL, and there's a random debuff that lets the enemy team kill you, and this causes you to lose 10% of games.  That, in a practical sense, is about what leftist identity politics means to me when I say I'm anxious or insecure.

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Quote:What's a "malinformed feeling"?

My feelings represent my emotional reactions to my environment.  They are motivators, and will explain many of my behaviors (if you believe in free will) and ALL of them if you do not.  Blaming me for having the "wrong" feelings about things might make your farts smell better to you, but they are unlikely to lead me to align my behaviors with those who cause them.
Just to knock it out.  A malinformed feeling is one that is legitimate -as a feeling-....but doesn't accurately express the situation that you're really in.  A pretty girl who feels ugly.  A skinny girl who thinks she's fat.  A nice guy who's worried he's an asshole.  You think that you're being victimized or are at uimmanent risk of victimization./  It's not even remotely likely that this is true..no matter how strongly and legitimately you feel this way.  
I'm not claiming to be a victim.  Being insecure and blaming political positions isn't (at least to me) victimization.  It's victimization if I roll over and let them do it to me.  Ultimately, my position is that their political stance cannot possibly succeed in the long run, because people like me are going to wake up one day and say-- "Nah.  Avoiding or compromising with these fuckers just emboldens them.  I'm going to fire them all and let the chips fall where they may."

My wife and I were both hired teachers, and we mainly made our business so we wouldn't have to deal with asshole management.  Now, we've resolved our position on staff.  If anyone wants to pick a fight with us, they're gone.  If they want to sue, they can, and I'll pay whatever the government thinks is appropriate.  But at every stage of that process, come hell or high water, I'm going to sleep like a baby-- because I'm going to be living the life I want to live.  Some college fuck isn't going to come into my 15 years of business development and tell me how to run the place-- no matter what memes they shout while they stamp their ineffectual little feet.

So yeah. . . I'm insecure about my future, and shitty employees hiding behind shitty identity-based memes are a part of that.  But I'm not insecure about who I am, how I want to live, or how I'm going to arrive at positions.

Quote:Often, when we stand up for "others" we are standing up for ourselves. 
I'm much like you with regards to the tales of derring-do.  My best moment in Korea was when I ran into an abandoned building to rescue a young lady from a heavily-tattooed gang member.  He was not particularly impressed when she scampered down the street barefoot with her top half ripped.  And if I actually saw someone attacking a black person, or an LGBTQ person, or an older person, they'd be on the receiving end of whatever blunt object was lying withing 10 feet of me at the time.

But that's not what I'm talking about.  I'm saying that EVEN THOUGH I've tried to meet these people in the middle, or in Tiz' case way way on his side, I do not feel it has been worth it to me.  I wasn't praised from outside.  I didn't feel pride or any nobility or sense of virtue on the inside.  There's simply no currency in it for me.  There is literally no motivation for me to keep jumping through rhetorical hoops, when they are clearly stacked against me and in favor of those who have no other claim over me: in virtue, intelligence, hard work, ambition, success, or any other metric.

The most dishonest person is one who pretends even to himself to have feelings, because he's been told he's supposed to.  And there's a lot of that, in every walk of life.  So in order for me to speak with real integrity, I have to say-- I simply don't give a shit about any of these issues.  Can't make me.  Not gonna do it.

I care about preparing classes, making kids laugh, saving money, expanding my business, making elegant computer programs, writing piano music, and in general making and achieving goals.  And the whole left-wing PC movement where everything has to be framed in terms of causes, movements, and so on, if I were to invest in it, would bring all that other stuff-- the stuff that ACTUALLY matters to me-- to a screeching halt.  So, black people-- good luck and have a happy life, but if you are going to work for me, keep that fucking card in your back pocket or you'll find out how little I care; if I hired you, then that's as far as I need to go, and further than many would have.  Gay people, same thing: make me some goddamned money.  Teach well, make students laugh like I do, bring in customers, and I'll shower you in love.  Suck at teaching, and accuse me of homophobia when I tell you you are harming my business, and you are going to be sent packing.

If I'm evil, then maybe I just need to own it.  If everyone expects me to mercilessly serve my own goals, then in a sense this is a free get-out-of-jail card.

Here's the empowered new me.  How do you like it?

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RE: Peterson's 12 Rules For Life, have you heard of this? - by bennyboy - August 15, 2018 at 11:59 pm

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