I don't really know how to explain the line between between abuse and discipline, but for the most part, I'm against hitting children because there other ways to discipline them without inflicting any physical pain such as through body language and/or by talking to them.
I used to get hit by my parents sometimes because I was kind of a disobedient child and I used to weird things that pissed them off. It was still pretty rare, though. Most of the time they would just talk to me in a disciplinary manner with a mild level of anger perhaps. And when they did hit me, I don't think they ever hit me nor punished me in a way that caused me a lot of pain. Maybe the pain lasted for a few minutes, and then it went away, but the psychological effect of the spanking stayed with me much longer. So, I think this type of beating serves more as a psychological tool rather than a physical one. It basically conveys a message to me that they got very angry for what I have done. But it doesn't mean that they don't love me.
Is hitting children always the best solution? Certainly not as there are other methods of disciplining children which can have a more positive effect on them in the future. So, if or when I have any children of my own, I don't think I would ever hit them or abuse them physically (nor mentally).
Sometimes, even my younger brother used to punch me on my arm when he got mad at me for silly reasons, but I never hit him back.
I used to get hit by my parents sometimes because I was kind of a disobedient child and I used to weird things that pissed them off. It was still pretty rare, though. Most of the time they would just talk to me in a disciplinary manner with a mild level of anger perhaps. And when they did hit me, I don't think they ever hit me nor punished me in a way that caused me a lot of pain. Maybe the pain lasted for a few minutes, and then it went away, but the psychological effect of the spanking stayed with me much longer. So, I think this type of beating serves more as a psychological tool rather than a physical one. It basically conveys a message to me that they got very angry for what I have done. But it doesn't mean that they don't love me.
Is hitting children always the best solution? Certainly not as there are other methods of disciplining children which can have a more positive effect on them in the future. So, if or when I have any children of my own, I don't think I would ever hit them or abuse them physically (nor mentally).
Sometimes, even my younger brother used to punch me on my arm when he got mad at me for silly reasons, but I never hit him back.
