Sorry, I just don't believe you can justify smacking a child anywhere on their body for any other reason than to save their very lives or from a painful accident. (ie. Shell B's water incident or in the unlikely even of Rhythm's grenade scenario ... you get the idea)
Here's why. Abrupt physical contact does get their attention in the event that you need an immediate cease to their current activity, but this doesn't need to cause actual pain - only a sharp jolt to redirect attention. Hell, just giving a child a quick jerk by the arm and bringing them face to face will often produce the desired result. A spanking (or a beating, if you will) is meant to cause pain. It's sole purpose is for the child to associate a certain activity with a painful result. Therefore, in order for a spanking to work - it has to be, by very definition, somewhat brutal ... something the child, absolutely does not want to happen again. A spanking that is "appropriate" (doesn't cause any significant pain) does not do the job intended and therefore does not really exist. In other words, if you're not causing any negative reaction from the child (crying due to pain) than you're not giving a spanking - you're merely pestering your little one, and the punishment is meaningless. What you're left with is millions of parents grappling with exactly how hard to beat their child. It's BULL SHIT!!
If parents did their god damn job from day one, there would be no need to beat a child. Oh and by the way, if you're kid is pushing his sibling down the stairs, the LAST thing you want is to give that child a beating. That child obviously already has a propensity for violent behavior and hitting them is NOT the lesson they need at that point.
My sister's son is 18. He's never been spanked a day in his life. He is the sweetest, kindest, most thoughtful 18 year old I have EVER met. FAR FAR better than I ever was when I was 18, and my dad beat me weekly throughout my childhood.
Anyway, sorry bout the rant. Unless you're going to beat the shit out of your kids, spankings are pointless and I personally think that its a lazy stupid adult that can't come up with something that works 10x better without an ounce of physical pain.
Here's why. Abrupt physical contact does get their attention in the event that you need an immediate cease to their current activity, but this doesn't need to cause actual pain - only a sharp jolt to redirect attention. Hell, just giving a child a quick jerk by the arm and bringing them face to face will often produce the desired result. A spanking (or a beating, if you will) is meant to cause pain. It's sole purpose is for the child to associate a certain activity with a painful result. Therefore, in order for a spanking to work - it has to be, by very definition, somewhat brutal ... something the child, absolutely does not want to happen again. A spanking that is "appropriate" (doesn't cause any significant pain) does not do the job intended and therefore does not really exist. In other words, if you're not causing any negative reaction from the child (crying due to pain) than you're not giving a spanking - you're merely pestering your little one, and the punishment is meaningless. What you're left with is millions of parents grappling with exactly how hard to beat their child. It's BULL SHIT!!
If parents did their god damn job from day one, there would be no need to beat a child. Oh and by the way, if you're kid is pushing his sibling down the stairs, the LAST thing you want is to give that child a beating. That child obviously already has a propensity for violent behavior and hitting them is NOT the lesson they need at that point.
My sister's son is 18. He's never been spanked a day in his life. He is the sweetest, kindest, most thoughtful 18 year old I have EVER met. FAR FAR better than I ever was when I was 18, and my dad beat me weekly throughout my childhood.
Anyway, sorry bout the rant. Unless you're going to beat the shit out of your kids, spankings are pointless and I personally think that its a lazy stupid adult that can't come up with something that works 10x better without an ounce of physical pain.
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