In support of the rage of man

[Yonadav]

Mic drop.

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Nice edit to remove the part where you said maybe you think you are shit.

Change the story...change your story.  

Abusive, violent behavior isn't excused because it happens a lot.  Dumb ass.

Nobody excused it.  I'm saying it's natural, and to some degree understandable.  It's a known quantity in the human species.

Nothing we do in society is natural-- not the buildings, or the food, or the computers, or anything else.  Nature is getting malaria and dying at 30.  We are very much a species struggling against nature-- that around us, and also that within us.

But there's a whole lot of support for people being whatever they were born as here, because "we can't help what we are."  Well, I also am what I am.  I'm honest about what that is, I try to improve on it, and I think that discussing it is a good way to work toward some understanding in a society that really isn't what any human's evolutionary history has adapted them for.  What would you like me to do-- flip the magic switch that makes me no longer aggressive?  Wake up fucking hating myself because I don't like violence, and I feel it in my blood like a drug sometimes?  The latter is already true, and the former is not possible or I would have done it.


And why are you talking about abuse?  Is throwing a TV in someone's presence 10 years ago an "abusive relationship"?

Yeah, this is what is bothering me about this discussion. You knew what you had to do to cool off. Your wife was refusing to let you do what you needed to do to cool off. And I am quite certain that what she did was illegal. And it is aggression. You smashed your TV, which is not illegal. But these people just want to pin it all on you, even though you basically did all of the right things.

We are taught to walk away when we are getting too angry. You tried to do that.
We are taught to take out our aggression on inanimate objects and not people when we get too angry. You did that.

There's a divorce from reality here. Human beings experience rage. You tried to use one of the most accepted coping mechanisms for it. You were blocked from doing that. So you resorted to a far less desirable but still 'acceptable' coping mechanisms of venting on an inanimate object. You basically did everything right.

Your right to use your preferred coping mechanism was violated. But these people won't acknowledge that.
You knew when to walk away, and you tried to walk away. That makes you the good guy.