In support of the rage of man

[bennyboy]

I know that when I lose my temper, it feels pretty good - at least in comparison to silently stewing in my own stress and accepting - real, or perceived - slights. And my smug d*ckhead of a boss tends to get off my ar*se -at least temporarily - if I make a fuss. If I cared more about my job - for example if the D*ckhead paid me more - I'd probably be more motivated to remind myself to keep my mouth shut, or at least to apologize afterwards. As it stands - I allow myself to get into certain situations, that - I should know by now - will trigger my anger and harm me in the long term. Because don't really care to try and stop myself.

I have an Italian friend who is rage personified.  Like. . . he rages almost every day like I have a few times in my life.

People seem to accept it though.  I mean-- he coaches a girls' soccer team and he's always shouting at them at the top of his lungs.  The parents seem to like it, or at least be fine with it.  "Goddamn it look BEHIND you!  It's right there, Jeeeesus!!!!" and the kid's mom is like "Come ON Heather, let's focus!"

If that was my kid, it would be a 1:1 rage-off for sure.  But some people are so very obvious ragers that unless they actually hit someone, it seems that people DO accept it.

Now, I happen to know that he was a little kid-- all the way up to the summer of grade 9.  He was bullied, teased, and even when he was little he had a temper-- it was clearly a defense against bullying.  But suddenly he shows up at school strapped like a freaking bull-- not that tall, but barrel chested and huge arms.  And now when he lost his tempter-- well, the bullying definitely stopped.

It's ironic, though, that those who are bullied are also the most likely to be bullies.  You'd think they'd have increased empathy for those weaker than themselves, but that's not always the case.  It's almost like some kind of emotional karma-- people sending back into the Universe whatever shit was dumped on them.