(April 8, 2019 at 11:44 am)mlmooney89 Wrote: I'm married to a Roman Catholic and we are 100% fine. The key is if you two are on the same page. My husband and I mock the overly religious nut jobs that go to extreme but I would never mock someone having a religion in general. He knows I post things that are in general anti religion but not towards anyone that is religious.
Also it's already been said but a discussion about children is a MUST. I could NEVER let my daughter grow up being raised in the faith so my husband had to be ok with that. Luckily he is on the same page of wanting her to make her own decisions so I won't tell her there isn't a god and he won't say there is. When she is old enough to question us we will say people believe different things and she needs to make her own mind up. Give her the points for all aspects then leave her to ask questions.
He goes to church alone and I go to atheist gatherings alone. Everything else we do together. Christmas is about family not religion. Our wedding had no religious aspects to it but if he had wanted it to I would have let them minus me praying. I hold hands at the dinner table at his family's house to complete their circle and stay quiet but I do not bow my head, close my eyes, nor say anything. I would decline being asked to lead the prayer but his family knows my views and respects them. My husband would put them in their place if they didn't though. I'd expect your girl to do the same if her family was asking you to do something you aren't comfortable with.
This is exactly the kind of thing I imagine would closely match our lives together. I'm perfectly fine with all of the things that you have mentioned. As I've said earlier, I don't find enjoyment in arguing or trying to debunk religious nonsense. It makes her happy and I love her the way she is. She knows where I stand and despite that loves me all the same.
I understand fully on the kid thing and will make sure that all of that is in place. Other than that, I feel like a "soft-theist" can be together with a "soft-atheist" lol (pardon the terms).
