I think there is a significant difference between saying the word and using the word. As in my Mark Twain example above, I'm still unsure how saying the word in a context like that is in any way offensive.
But similarly, I don't see how using the word to refer to a person or group of people can be anything but offensive.
Boru
But similarly, I don't see how using the word to refer to a person or group of people can be anything but offensive.
Boru
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