(June 26, 2020 at 1:27 pm)brewer Wrote: I'd have mixed emotions about this.
I don't need to be the biologic to be a loving father/provider. I've done it both ways. When it comes to the kid(s), same, same.
But I'd definitely have trust issues with the SO if this was planned and they didn't let me know upfront or tried to put one over on me. I'd probably get over it eventually but doubt things would ever be exactly the same (I can forgive, not so much forget). And I'm not a big fan of unconditional love when it comes to SO's. Plus, if not a biologic, a third party may enter the mix.
Anyway, that's my two cents. Best of luck!
I know what you're saying.
It would break my heart if she had done something. I'm very certain that this isn't the case based on what I know about her. She really is an amazing woman.
That being said, I am a man of facts and science. If a test comes back clean, I will be demanding paternity. I already had this discussion with her. She said she's fine with doing the paternity and to please get the test because people won't believe this is for real otherwise.
