(June 26, 2020 at 1:27 pm)brewer Wrote: I'd have mixed emotions about this.
I don't need to be the biologic to be a loving father/provider. I've done it both ways. When it comes to the kid(s), same, same.
But I'd definitely have trust issues with the SO if this was planned and they didn't let me know upfront or tried to put one over on me. I'd probably get over it eventually but doubt things would ever be exactly the same (I can forgive, not so much forget). And I'm not a big fan of unconditional love when it comes to SO's. Plus, if not a biologic, a third party may enter the mix.
Anyway, that's my two cents. Best of luck!
Any logical woman would understand why a guy would have testing done....
20,000 to one is some damned long odds.
Of course if the kid is his - and she knows it - she might not like him getting it checked out - but should certainly understand it. A really thoughtful logical woman would insist he does get the test - and he is gonna owe her big when he finds out the kid is his....
The only one who would object is a woman who is illogical - or guilty of screwing around.