(July 16, 2020 at 11:42 am)ModusPonens1 Wrote:(July 16, 2020 at 9:52 am)wolf39us Wrote: Trust me when I say that it worries me as well.
You're right, I never wanted or even liked kids.
You're also right that it is her body and her choice.
I did strongly suggest to her when we first found out that this is not a good idea.
She is dead set against abortion and I DID agree to have one child with her when I married her.
I hope that all will be well. I love her, and will take on any challenge that comes our way, even if it's one I've never wanted.
As for the future, the two of us will be using two forms of birth control at all times (most likely with her using an IUD or implant).
I will be getting resnipped, and life will go on.
So, it seems to me that the following is true:
(1) Neither of you has done anything wrong.
(2) Having a child you don't want is probably a tragedy.
(3) Having a child you don't want hopefully isn't a tragedy---and hopefully you will come to love your child and be a great father at some point after they are born. Hopefully sooner rather than later.
I'd personally love to know which of (1)-(3) you disagree with, if any, but you are by no means obliged to satisfy my curiosity.
I’m solidly in the third category.
