(November 6, 2021 at 9:33 pm)Jackalope Wrote:(November 6, 2021 at 8:55 pm)arewethereyet Wrote: Had you been paying spousal support and this signals the end of that?
I used 'don't ever call me again' with my mother. She has found a half dozen excuses over the years to call. I have cut those calls very short. But the comment had to be blunt to set boundaries with her.
Just be happy the ex is now someone else's problem.
Child support, which ended last year. I pay our child's college expenses when he is enrolled (currently not). I've blocked her number before, I'll do it again if necessary.
I was married for 12 years before she got fed up and left. No kids by mutual choice. I walked away with enough to just about buy this house. If I had to pay maintenance for say 2 kids, I would have been fucked.
Here the Famiy Court decides the amount of maintenance. It's usually set at about 40% of your salary for one child. If you're working, the court will order a garnishee on your salary. Here, the mother usually gets the kids, but not always. A lot of blokes will quite their jobs to void paying maintenance. Always struck me as stupid; hurts the kid as much as the ex.
Trivia: In Muslim countries the father always gets the children in case of divorce, at least in principle.