(February 18, 2022 at 12:36 pm)emjay Wrote: I'm sorry if I overgeneralised there, and so sorry that you're going through all of thisI can only imagine how rejected you feel, and how much to the core, because when I talked about homosexuality 'only' being a part of me, not the whole of me, I only really meant that - for me - as a comforting/comfortable abstraction, ie it's a much bigger part of me than my family would ever give it credit for (still not the whole, but bigger), and I'm sure an even bigger and more fundamental part for issues such as yours to do with identity and gender and the skin you feel comfortable in... those sorts of issues I've never really had... so I'm sorry if you felt I was downplaying the significance of that; it's just my own emotional tendency, for myself in many situations, to abstract, [over]analyse, and emotionally step back/detach, but I know that's not everyone. I wish I knew what else to say, or could give some practical advice, but I don't/can't... other than to wish you all the best and hope you can find some sort of peace, however long it takes
No worries, emjay! I appreciate the advice and the spirit of what you're getting at. Because it can feel preferable in the moment to retreat entirely from things that are hurtful, rather than measuring it against the whole and the context/motivation of my family members. *hugs* Thank you.
