RE: Relationship
March 13, 2012 at 10:16 pm
(This post was last modified: March 13, 2012 at 10:21 pm by Rokcet Scientist.)
(March 13, 2012 at 5:43 pm)nyc88 Wrote: Okay so I am currently in a serious relationship with a Jewish person and I am growing increasingly concerned with the hypocrisy he continues to throw at me. I mean, he claims he doesn't know if he believes in god, however, he claims he would die for his religion. He constantly makes me feel as though I am not fulfilling him as he originally claimed he wanted a Jewish wife and family. (My ancestry is Christian though I couldn't care less) I originally was okay with the idea, however, as we continue to get closer to the next step in our relationship, I really feel that it would be unfair to raise my children in a Jewish household raising them under a philosophy that I don't believe in myself, especially when it comes to the fact that he doesn't either (I think he simply wants to because he feels its part of his heritage; though I still don't think that's an excuse).
Anyways, the reason I am bringing this up is because an incident the other day. I am very passionate about architecture and especially religious architecture, I wanted to visit a cathedral in our town simply for its aesthetic beauty and it struck me that he was acting uncomfortable to enter the church and told me he wasn't supposed to enter as a Jew and I would not be allowed to either if I converted. I laughed at him and told him to get his ass in. Later we were walking around a Pier One when I saw a cross that looked pretty (purely decorative value) and he said he would not allow any crosses in our home. It really irked me. Whenever he says stuff like that it just makes me dislike religion even more and it makes him look so ignorant in my opinion.
Anyways, I just wanted to know if anyone else has been through a similar situation. If so, what did you end up doing to solve the issue? Thanks!!!
Those sound like very fundamental differences of opinion, nyc. And getting more fundamental still, by your description of it all. TBH I think they are irreconcilable in one household. Imo, something has to give here. It's pretty clear that he expects his wife to behave like a good, orthodox Jewish wife (whatever that may be). You need to ask yourself if you're prepared to do that for him. If you're prepared to live a life you don't believe in. If you're prepared to live a lie.
Good luck!
