RE: Day #3 Out of the Closet
December 4, 2012 at 12:14 pm
(This post was last modified: December 4, 2012 at 12:17 pm by Kirbmarc.)
Quote:Because I can see the happiness she gets out of religion
But what if she can find that happiness elsewhere? You can't know what she might experience. She's probably stronger than you imagine.
Quote:What's more important; happiness or the truth?
It's a false dicotomy. One does not exclude the other. A drug addict is undoubtedly happy at times, but is his happiness healthy?
Quote:I feel like I might have to rebuild my life.
We all od that all the time. It's called growing up, and it's the only way not to suffer when childish illusions are shattered. Life is nothing but building, changing and rebuilding again.
Quote:if her "world" is destroyed then I'm confident that she will face hardships that will make her anything but happy like she is right now.
Or maybe she will just ignore your ideas and move on. Or even be happier after she becomes more mentally aware about the weaknesses of her religion. You can't know that for sure. The only thing that you know is that she, as a human beings and even more so as friend, deserves respect and to be treated as an equal, neither as an object of scorn (and you got that part right) nor as a precious snowflake.
If she's an adult (and I suppose she is) , then she's mature enough to have a civil conversation about her philosophy. Thinking otherwise would be insulting for her intelligence and emotional maturity.
Quote:I can't really date any of the girls I know anymore because so much of our views on life conflict.
It's not necessarily true. I had a religious girlfriend and I never had problems about our conflicting views. The only problems we had were personal ones.
