Non traditional engagement

[TaraJo]

What's your opinion on a woman asking a man to marry her instead of the more traditional man on one knee "popping the question"?

I have mixed feelings about this one.

I despise arbritrary gender roles and this is undoubtedly one of them. There's nothing wrong with women asking men to marry them. In fact, I applaud women who are willing to do it and I applaud the men who are ok with it as well.

However, as for me, personally, I still envision the day when my boyfriend gets down on one knee and asks me to marry him.

That being said, until he comes out to his family, we don't see a wedding between he two of us. Not hat he's ashamed of me or anything, but he loves his family and he's terrified what they'll do when he does come out.

So I guess I'm one of those hypocrites who says "Go for it!" with everyone else, but when it comes to myself I say "No way, Jose!"

As for last names, we have quite a bit of complicated emotional garbage on both sides. Neither one of us is too terribly attached to our last names (although his is decidedly more common than mine).