(February 19, 2013 at 6:29 pm)missluckie26 Wrote: I think I've gone and confused you. I was trying to make it simple for you but I see where I may have confused you. My childhood was, confusing..No, I understood it. The important part is that your "attractive percentage has shifted from women to men." Remember, I'm suggesting a bi continuum model in which change isn't an either/or thing, but rather a slide up or down the continuum. You fit that model nicely.
When I was little I did like boys too. If given a choice though, I would've chosen girls over boys. I preferred girls. But, I did like boys. My crushes at school were on boys but I loved my best friend girls more than anyone and more than a friend should. I had sexual experiences with both boys and girls, back when I didn't know that girl girl was wrong. I always thought that I was a closet lesbian because I preferred women over men as a teenager. The fact that what I wanted was taboo in my life at the time, meant the choice was made for me. And I adapted to like men more than women as an adult, as a result.
Obviously I'm new to this whole identifying thing but I still think my point stands and that is that we don't choose who we are, we just are because I still like women no matter if my attractive percentage has shifted from women to men. Even if I said I was straight and never touched a woman the rest of my life, that wouldn't change the fact that I indeed like women intrinistically. It's just who I am. I can't change it.
I've had two gay friends (one male, one female) with whom I was close enough that sexuality came up in conversation. They were each more attracted to the same sex, but each was also willing to have sex with the opposite sex if a same partner wasn't available. I said to each, "So you're bi, not gay." Each quickly and strongly said that they were completely gay. Seemed illogical to me (and still does), but they were friends and I wasn't out to prove a point, I was just making an observation, and dropped it.
Does it make sense to refer to someone who is attracted to both sexes, and sexually active with both sexes, as G/L? Not to me.
