I don't think people are particularly obligated to have contact with their parents, especially shitty parents. It sounds like your mother doesn't want to accept or even acknowledge some of the issues that you have with her. When you are an adult, if they want a relationship they have to play a little by your rules. You aren't under any obligation towards them simply for 'raising you.' Aside from that it's illegal not to feed and clothe a child, it's not extraordinary effort unless they are actually good parents.


