Can I rant for a second, about parents

[NuclearEnergy]

Okay well I'm a University student home for the holidays. I had a not very good semester during the fall and so I am taking a very easy Sociology course over the winter session to boost my GPA. It's so easy! There's 3 quizzes and 6 discussions. My parents are "helping" me when I'm capable of doing it all on my own. I'm in College for godsakes and I'm 23. I'm a Junior in college. I just know with my Dad helping there's going to be some things he doesn't agree with and he will somehow try to make it religious. Like "well this goes against everything the Bible says" and all that bull crap. He's done it before with one of my science classes. I mean, my parents aren't dumb (They're both lawyers and my Dad does very high end business cases) I just think they need to leave me alone and if I ask for help then give it. Basically it's turning into their class, not mine. For instance, I took a math course I really needed a few years ago and I passed it and they say the only reason I passed it was because "God helped me". How do you think that makes me feel? 

To make this simple: I'm like a foreign country that is doing OK and has it's occasional hiccups. And my parents are being the United States and getting involved when they shouldn't be unless asked. And keep in mind I have zero issue asking them for help. But it's my education, not theirs, but I digress. I'm just going to put up with this for the next 3 weeks and even though I'll probably want to blow my brains out by then at least I'll have an easy A. But just a little rant.

[Minimalist]

Like "well this goes against everything the Bible says"

I suppose saying "well the bible is a pile of shit so who cares?" is out of the question?

[chimp3]

I learned at the age of 19 not to get I to it with my parents over re!igion. They are preachers. So they preached at me until I was 36 years old. I never responded just listened. Now I am 57 and have not heard any preaching for 21 years. Our relationship is still intact. I won! Religion is not worth ruining relationships over.

[robvalue]

Ugh, how irritating. My condolences.

My parents still treat me like I'm five years old and utterly incapable of doing anything.

[Edwardo Piet]

Yes you may rant about parents.

Parents are annoying.

[AceBoogie]

I completely understand where you're coming from, though my situation was probably a bit different.

Parents are people, like anyone else. Some people may read that and say, "Well... duh!"

But my point is, parents make mistakes. Most people treat parenting like most people treat getting a cat or dog. Sure, some dog owners do heavy research before deciding to buy a dog... they find out what kind of temperament certain dogs tend to have... what kinds of foods certain dogs tend to prefer. Proper techniques on how to train a dog, how to communicate with your dog, how to establish dominance over your dog... etc.

Same thing with parenting. Some people get really into it and put everything they have into it, but most people, I suspect, just wing it and sort of decide how to do things as they go along. One thing I've noticed about my own parents, they do not understand boundaries. In fact, I suspect most people do not really understand boundaries.

I am not very close to anyone in my family and this is mainly because I can't stand most of the people in my family. To be completely frank, most of them are unintelligent, uninteresting, inconsiderate people. The others tend to be outright mean spirited and bitter. Therefore, because I love them, I have created certain boundaries with my loved ones. If I didn't care about them I would just disregard their existence altogether and continue living my life as if they were not there... but that's not the case.

So I have found, for myself, that creating clear, concise boundaries with my parents, and other family members, has been the best way to go.

Without boundaries any relationship can turn messy. And the longer you go without cleaning up the mess, the worse things tend to get.

Good luck with everything!

[brewer]

If they are paying for your education, just suck it up.

[Cato]

23 year old junior? Give them a break, they are probably just doing their part to make sure you graduate before Christ returns.

[downbeatplumb]

Yes you may rant about parents.

Parents are annoying.

As a parent myself I resemble that remark.

[Shell B]

23 year old junior? Give them a break, they are probably just doing their part to make sure you graduate before Christ returns.

I assume he's doing a four-year, which would mean he started at 19 or 20. I don't understand what's wrong about that. Gap years are fairly common.