A challenge about women and marriage in Islam

[Muslim Scholar]

When I left Alaska, I'd just turned 18, and I went to Texas. I come back 8 months later, and find out that many of the people I knew had gotten married, gotten pregnant, gone to college, and a few had even had babies.

I leave and come back again, and most of those had ended in divorce, abortion, changed their major, and complained heavily about the circumstances that baby-having resulted in.

We're all children, from 1 to 92. Nobody is 'fully' aware of how children or marriage or college will affect their life, even those who have been through it already often mischaracterize what went wrong in their lives. For all that hindsight is claimed to be 20/20... our situations and understandings have changed since then.

Having children is a massive responsibility, I would always prefer that those seeking children of their own first learn from the children of other people, attempting to care for them first. I would be completely okay with amending pregnancy-related laws with "Must first prove that one can care for the child according to <proficiency>".

I don't agree that a nine year old getting pregnant today is going to 'overwork' health services (consider: they could be getting pregnant in 9 years, and the effect would be nearly identical as far as work that doctors must do).

that's why in Islam marriage is not just sex or 2 people agree to live together, family are involved (even for grown ups) and proper matching should be considered before marriage.