RE: Raising a child religiously neutral
May 30, 2013 at 3:35 pm
(This post was last modified: May 30, 2013 at 3:47 pm by diego.)
(May 29, 2013 at 4:33 pm)Gilgamesh Wrote: Tell your baby that there has never been - and never will be any supporting evidence that any god claim has been true. If she grows up knowing that yet still becomes christian, then she deserves to be christian.
Although, it's peculiar that your wife would have you agree not to influence the child religiously, since you're an atheist. Why would an atheist ever try to convert a child to a religion?
Gilgamesh,
thanks for your response.
our baby is still not yet 1 year old as of today. but my wife has already started saying things like "bow to god", "this is God", etc...
children can be brainwashed at early age. i'm afraid that her brainwashing may be irreversible... i want my baby to grow up open-minded, logical, not homophobic, tolerant, not superstitious and fearful of what others say about god's punishment for non-believers. Since you visit this forum, you know exactly what i'm talking about.
btw, there are religions that are atheistic... most of the far east religions are. one could be religious and atheistic at the same time.
(May 29, 2013 at 4:35 pm)festive1 Wrote: Don't really know what to tell you...
How is she forcing god onto your baby? Did she get the baby Christened? Or is she taking baby to mass on Sundays? Reading god-themed baby-books?
If she just wanted to get the baby christened, and there's been nothing else, I'd be pissed too, but what can you do? But if she's doing ongoing things, like taking baby to church every week, she's clearly breaking your prior agreement. That's kind of a big deal, at least it would be to me...
I guess you've got to decide if the breach of your agreement is a deal breaker, and somehow reconcile the larger issue of incompatible faiths...
We've got a few members with spouses with differing belief systems... Maybe they'll have some good advice.
@festive1 ,
thanks for your response.
my wife did mention that she wants to christened our baby, but i told her no... the baby is not guilty of any crimes therefore needs no saviors. she did try to buy god-themed baby books, but i told her not to. she also did other things... please see my response to the first post.
our baby is still under a year old. so she's not going to church... yet. at least that's what i know, i don't know if my wife took her to church without my knowledge.
what irked me so much is that my wife is blatantly breaking our agreement. it's clear that she values her faith more than her own words, our agreement, and her husband. what would other husbands do in this situation?
