I need to vent a bit. Don't have anyone to talk to at the moment.
So a couple of hours ago, I was over at a friend's apartment. Her ex-husband stops by to pick up their 13 year old, and he and their other son (22 years old) get into a verbal altercation right outside the door.
A little history on the guy: he has a history of anger management issues, substance abuse, violent outbursts, and physical and emotional abuse. He's manipulative, and everything is everyone elses fault but his. Yup, he's that guy.
To make a long story short, eventually my friend gets dragged into it,
and he's being very threateningg and abusive, and not responding to requests that he leave. The situation is escalating, and while I'm not a fan of getting involved in a domestic dispute, somebody has to do something.
So the next thing I know, I'm out in front of their apartment, standing 6 feet away from this asshole, pointing a baseball bat at his nose, telling him it's time for him to leave, now. He objects to "being assulted" (haha), and goes for his cell phone to call the cops.
Let me save you the trouble, asshole, I'll call them. Which I did. He continues to rant for a bit longer, threatens to not return the 13 year old, and generally continues to make an ass of himself before leaving right before the cops show up. Oh, yeah, and he said to her "if I ever see that guy (me) again, I'm gonna kill him".
The police are sympathetic, but can't really do anything. The primary objective has already been accomplished though: the asshole is gone.
I abhor violence. I hate these kinds of confrontations. I'm just now coming down off the adrenaline surge, and I hate that I felt I had to do what I did. I couldn't sit by and let him abuse my friend the way he did when they were together.
I don't know that I could have done much differently. What do you think you would have done in a similar situation?
So a couple of hours ago, I was over at a friend's apartment. Her ex-husband stops by to pick up their 13 year old, and he and their other son (22 years old) get into a verbal altercation right outside the door.
A little history on the guy: he has a history of anger management issues, substance abuse, violent outbursts, and physical and emotional abuse. He's manipulative, and everything is everyone elses fault but his. Yup, he's that guy.
To make a long story short, eventually my friend gets dragged into it,
and he's being very threateningg and abusive, and not responding to requests that he leave. The situation is escalating, and while I'm not a fan of getting involved in a domestic dispute, somebody has to do something.
So the next thing I know, I'm out in front of their apartment, standing 6 feet away from this asshole, pointing a baseball bat at his nose, telling him it's time for him to leave, now. He objects to "being assulted" (haha), and goes for his cell phone to call the cops.
Let me save you the trouble, asshole, I'll call them. Which I did. He continues to rant for a bit longer, threatens to not return the 13 year old, and generally continues to make an ass of himself before leaving right before the cops show up. Oh, yeah, and he said to her "if I ever see that guy (me) again, I'm gonna kill him".
The police are sympathetic, but can't really do anything. The primary objective has already been accomplished though: the asshole is gone.
I abhor violence. I hate these kinds of confrontations. I'm just now coming down off the adrenaline surge, and I hate that I felt I had to do what I did. I couldn't sit by and let him abuse my friend the way he did when they were together.
I don't know that I could have done much differently. What do you think you would have done in a similar situation?
