When family members start to go.

[littleendian]

I have a grandmother who in recent years has been starting to behave more and more weird.

I know the feeling, even though my grandparents all died before or when I was in my teens, I vividly remember my grandmother wasting away from bowel cancer, my grandfather died from respiratory problems, he could only eat puree his last few years.

But there is my other grandfather, who I think had a beautiful death. He was a carpenter and was often off in the woods getting wood. One day, he was 84, he didn't come back, and when they looked for him they found him lying peacefully with his tools assembled neatly beside him, he probably felt dizzy or drowsy and layed down and just fell asleep and never woke up in a peaceful place he loved. That's how I want to go.

Hehe, makes me think of that movie quote: "I wanna die peaceful in my sleep like my grandfather, not kicking and screaming like the passangers in the bus he was driving"

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What you posted sounds pretty typical of old people. I think people reach an age where they stop giving a shit about anything. My Grandfather is pretty much the same, especially since my mother and grandmother passed away.

Actually I think we have great control over how well or how badly we age. I always think of my Aikido sensei, who is in his mid 60s and is still in breathtaking control of his movements. Basically exercise, healthy diet and forcing one self to leave ones comfort zones I think is a good recipe for dignified old age.