After working in a nursing home for the elderly, I've seen from the sidelines what dementia does to families. As FNM said, is so darn hard to love and loathe a person at the same time. One thing to remember though, once the brain starts deteriorating, the person disappears. I don't see any shame in thinking the person dead or if one wishes not to have anything to do with their family member., especially if you didn't like him/her when at his/her full wits. All I ask from family is that they make sure that the 'shell' is taken care of, if not by them, then by others.
A reminder to the rest of your family, it's all good to feel smug now and think that she gets what she deserves, but remember that most forms of dementia is hereditary..
(July 2, 2013 at 4:30 pm)The Germans are coming Wrote: And now with her getting older and older and devolving into a less and less reasonable state I kind of watch this situation and really dont know what to think. I feel a certain aura arround her within my family, a kind of very present yet hiden attitude of "she gets what she deserves".
A reminder to the rest of your family, it's all good to feel smug now and think that she gets what she deserves, but remember that most forms of dementia is hereditary..
When I was young, there was a god with infinite power protecting me. Is there anyone else who felt that way? And was sure about it? but the first time I fell in love, I was thrown down - or maybe I broke free - and I bade farewell to God and became human. Now I don't have God's protection, and I walk on the ground without wings, but I don't regret this hardship. I want to live as a person. -Arina Tanemura
