Americas child death shame

[thesummerqueen]

Religion teaches people to not be selfish, but not all selfishness is bad. In fact, I'd say not having children until you're ready (and for some, not having children at all) is one of the best kinds of selfish you can be.

I think it's selfish he way many people have kids just to fulfill a doctrine, or for myriad other reasons:

Doug Stanhope: "You wanted a kid because you wanted to see what you would look like if you hadn't eaten so much cake!" (True enough - many people try to live their fantasies out in their offspring)

My boyfriend's sister: "I wanted company." (She can't afford ANYTHING and bounces between a trailer and their parents' house. Sometimes, my boyfriend has bought her a week's worth of groceries because she can't feed the kid.)

Former friend: "I only ever wanted to be a mother." (She's an affair-having skank whose mother ignored her, and addicted to pain killers - her second child came out with addiction from the womb.)

Acquaintance: "I thought the kids would keep us together." (You thought WRONG!)

Other acquaintance: "Well, that's the next step isn't it?" (No, douchebag, your life is your own...you don't have to follow some pre-ordained 'plan' that doesn't exist just so you look good for society.)



Truth: David and I don't want to have kids because

1) We can't afford it.
2) We want to travel.
3) We don't like small, smelly people very much.
4) We don't want our toys messed up.
5) I don't have the patience.
6) He likes having a clean condo.
7) We both have siblings who will have kids, so we can spoil them and give them back.
8) If we had kids, we could adopt instead, being bereft of the need for family to be about 'blood', since many of our blood relatives actually suck ass.
9) I'm scared of bringing a kid into the school system here in NC.
10) College fees.