Americas child death shame

[thesummerqueen]

Your honesty is refreshing. Thank you. I especially liked number seven.

I spent 25 years being closed in one manner or another about many things, and conducting myself in a way I didn't like. The reason I was adamant about you raising your daughter to parse out her feelings is because I think being honest with yourself is paramount, and being honest with others is only slightly less so. My life changed dramatically 3 years ago when I stopped being dishonest (even at the sake of what Americans consider polite) and started being forthright. It's got me into trouble because I also lack tact in many situations, but I'm learning. If more people were honest about their needs and wants, I think the world would be a much better place. Despite what 'humbling' religions like Abrahamic ones suggest, doing so DOES leave room to be personally selfish AND altruistic.

I had a daughter with my ex-wife back when I was Mormon because I was under the false assumption that I was supposed to. Now my daughter is going to grow up in a less-than-ideal situation going from apartment from apartment with her succubus mother (I kid you not, she moved in with her new boyfriend a week after she broke up with her last one), and I'm left raising my daughter long-distance over Skype once a week. Myself and my ex are to blame for our daughter's situation, and I physically can't do more than I already do for her.

I have a friend who is saving up to sue for custody of his daughter for similar reasons. It's expensive, but you might want to consider it.