The people you love suddenly not knowing you is one of the worst feelings.
The day my mother died, when they'd decided there was nothing to do but heavily sedate her take her off the ventilator and wait for her to basically suffocate on a tumour, the specialist took my sister and I into a room to explain it all. I don't remember most of what she said all that well, but at some point she said to us "We'll give you some time with her to say goodbye while she still knows who you are." Of all of the events of that day, that one sentence is the memory that's the most likely to make me cry even now, nearly 10 years later.
I think I'd rather suffer a death that was sudden than put my loved ones through anything resemling that feeling.
The day my mother died, when they'd decided there was nothing to do but heavily sedate her take her off the ventilator and wait for her to basically suffocate on a tumour, the specialist took my sister and I into a room to explain it all. I don't remember most of what she said all that well, but at some point she said to us "We'll give you some time with her to say goodbye while she still knows who you are." Of all of the events of that day, that one sentence is the memory that's the most likely to make me cry even now, nearly 10 years later.
I think I'd rather suffer a death that was sudden than put my loved ones through anything resemling that feeling.
