Encouragement and Advice

[Tonus]

Anyway - I had a friend round to my house tonight and he started arguing with me about christianity and how it is right.

Ahhhh, tolerance. Can you smell its sweet fragrance?

Yeah, me either. Your friend sounds like a bit of a douche, sorry.

Can someone please refute them. I know that there is no evidence to prove god or gods exist but I am afraid of hell and I am also finding it difficult to stop believing.

Don't be in a hurry to make a decision. Take your time and read up on those arguments and consider them without being in a rush. Look, it is clear that you had very strong and closely-held beliefs and do not seem to have had a reason to give them up on a whim. So the weakening of your faith is something you must take into account. No doubt your religious family members and acquaintances feel that the best approach is to smother you and harass you until you give in. Does that make their belief system seem more correct, or less?

Don't seek the quick and easy answers, they may not satisfy you and will simply make you more confused. You cannot acquire knowledge by swallowing a book; you have to seek out information and think about it and work things out in your mind. It's not a process that you will complete in an hour or a day; some deconverts struggle for much longer than that. I think that the harder you try to get a quick resolution to your concerns, the longer it will take to find whatever it is you seek.