(September 13, 2013 at 10:21 am)Cinjin Wrote: The OP was meant to stir conversation among rational people who may have some insight on monogamy and the like. I was looking for some truth about the reality of living with the same person for an entire lifetime.
My grand parents from my father's side... well, not really my grandparents... they were my dad's uncles and his caregivers since his 13th birthday, so, for all intents and purposes, they were my grandparents.
They lived together for over 50 years... till death did them... I don't know how the saying goes...
Anyway, one of the really cool things I learned from their relationship was to learn when to just quit nagging the other party.
I witnessed some discussions (over small things, sure... but this can extrapolate to larger discussions), and they all ended when one of them just didn't care about it anymore... usually, at the 2nd or 3rd reply, so very early on the discussion... you could miss it, if you weren't paying attention. Just a shrug of shoulders and they were friends again.
As far as I see the long term relationship that marriage is, it relies heavily on being friends.
Love, sex and the likes all play a role, but what requires work is the friendship.
It's so easy to get angry at someone for something trivial and then just let that escalate into something that drives you two apart
