My Mother the Psychic

[Ksa]

Whatever she's done she's your mother so you have to treat her with respect and not criticize what she's doing. Who says this? Not Ksa, but the Qur'an, in Surat Luqmān 31:15 which says:

"But if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them but accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness and follow the way of those who turn back to Me [in repentance]. Then to Me will be your return, and I will inform you about what you used to do."

You imagine, the Qur'an saying to show kindness towards unbelievers. You expect the Qur'an to say Ahhh Kafir! Murdock! Chop their heads off. But no! Treat them with kindness and respect, even-though you don't follow their teachings.

Why would the Qur'an ask you to treat them kindly? The answer is, because they're your parents. If you treat them badly, once they die, you will NEVER forgive yourself. Allah may forgive you but not YOU. You will regret that you did what you did, that you treated them poorly, so that's why such instruction is given, in order to benefit YOU, not the parents! The parents don't benefit anything if you are kind to them but don't follow. They would prefer you to call them names, and follow, then to be kind to them and not follow. But Allah says clearly that if you call them names, it benefits your parents because they can blame you and through blame they can impose their ideas upon you.

This verse strips parents whose beliefs differ from yours of all their power, of all authority and ability to control you. Them losing control over you may be painful, so if they get violent you can leave the room until they calm down, but never fall into the trap and play their game. I respect the opinions of my fellow forum members and my opinion is that you should treat your mother with respect so that you may regret nothing once she dies. So in this matter specifically I go with the Qur'an and I rarely make such an affirmation.