I don't like disowning people. I only do it when there is no other way. If anyone has any other suggestions I would be grateful and happy to here them.
Where to start with this guy...
1. Fundamentalist Catholic. Believes condoms cause AIDS, Haiti was hit by an earthquake because of a voodoo pact they made with the devil, believes abortion should be illegal in all cases including rape, believes homosexuality should be criminalized, believes ALL contraception is evil and sex before marriage is evil.
2. Prone to drunken rages, including driving around where I live looking for someone to beat up because they, shock horror, hung up the phone on him. Talk about what would Jesus do.
3. Fucked his brother's fiance for years, and royally screwed up my cousin because he doesn't know if his uncle is his dad, and vice verse. Thought I didn't know about his seedy little affair, until I slapped him round the face with that knowledge, because he was screaming drunkenly about me being immoral for DARING to have a boyfriend. The fucking nerve.
4. Manipulates and wins over my mother because she's religious too (she however has more of a brain in her head).
5. Obsessed with the gay population. Obsessed. Every time he comes in for a cup of tea he's on a rant about the "gay agenda" and how they are aren't really being persecuted (at least not as much as the poor Catholics, according to him).
6. Said nobody would give a shit if my sister died. She's agoraphobic and has mental problems. She's rude and spiteful but he's a grown man and she was eleven when he said that.
7. Turns up at my house every single fucking day, to talk religion with my mum. He's got nobody else, and has never had to pay rent IN HIS LIFE. He still lives with my grand mother aged 47, and has the utter nerve to make comments on my life.
8. Ruined my childhood by constantly putting images of Hell in my head. Descriptions of people being boiled alive and having their mouths filled with lead. My parents didn't know the extent of it and were horrified when it all finally came out today.
9. Constantly criticizes everyone around him, including my dad on how to raise his mentally ill child (my sister).
10. Gets drunk on the job while he's getting carer allowance to look after my grandmother. He gets paid to sit around getting shitfaced all day while he's supposed to be taking care of my nan.
11. Convinced my grand mother to write his other four siblings OUT OF HER WILL. Yeah. You read right. Because he's fed her a load of bullshit about how because he's always lived at home (like the fucking workshy man-child he is), he'll take care of the house and if they ever need to stay he'll let them stay.....fat fucking chance! That bastard is the reason my OTHER alcoholic uncle was on our sofa for three years - he wouldn't let him past the fucking door!
12. Has a problem with me having a sex life at aged 27, a fucking grown woman, no pun intended.
13. Told me as a ten year old, that my FIVE YEAR OLD sister (who was a difficult kid) could go to hell, and that "there are seven year old children in hell, NOW!" and I was made to feel like I had to save her from burning for eternity. I was terrified for her.
Today I decided not to sit in silence while he spouted a load of fundamentalist nonsense. I disagreed to the point where he was insulting me and storming out. ALL you have got to do is disagree with this moron. I broke down when he left and told my mum ALL the shit he used to say to me as a kid, I was crying which I don't easily. They never knew he said nobody would care if my sister died. Yet they still don't want to cut him off, for some bizarre reason.
As far as I'm concerned, repeatedly telling a child about people being tortured in hell, is fucking child abuse.
I disowned the guy today. I told my mum to tell him if she sees him, but she didn't want to. It sucks because he lives five doors away from us. I have no idea how and why this complete and total LOSER has gotten away with so much, but he has and I'm fucking sick of it.
Any input would be much appreciated. I would love to hear any opinions on what I should do, whether I'm right to walk away from him for good, if anyone else had problems with a relative like this and just any general input. Thank you for reading.
Where to start with this guy...
1. Fundamentalist Catholic. Believes condoms cause AIDS, Haiti was hit by an earthquake because of a voodoo pact they made with the devil, believes abortion should be illegal in all cases including rape, believes homosexuality should be criminalized, believes ALL contraception is evil and sex before marriage is evil.
2. Prone to drunken rages, including driving around where I live looking for someone to beat up because they, shock horror, hung up the phone on him. Talk about what would Jesus do.
3. Fucked his brother's fiance for years, and royally screwed up my cousin because he doesn't know if his uncle is his dad, and vice verse. Thought I didn't know about his seedy little affair, until I slapped him round the face with that knowledge, because he was screaming drunkenly about me being immoral for DARING to have a boyfriend. The fucking nerve.
4. Manipulates and wins over my mother because she's religious too (she however has more of a brain in her head).
5. Obsessed with the gay population. Obsessed. Every time he comes in for a cup of tea he's on a rant about the "gay agenda" and how they are aren't really being persecuted (at least not as much as the poor Catholics, according to him).
6. Said nobody would give a shit if my sister died. She's agoraphobic and has mental problems. She's rude and spiteful but he's a grown man and she was eleven when he said that.
7. Turns up at my house every single fucking day, to talk religion with my mum. He's got nobody else, and has never had to pay rent IN HIS LIFE. He still lives with my grand mother aged 47, and has the utter nerve to make comments on my life.
8. Ruined my childhood by constantly putting images of Hell in my head. Descriptions of people being boiled alive and having their mouths filled with lead. My parents didn't know the extent of it and were horrified when it all finally came out today.
9. Constantly criticizes everyone around him, including my dad on how to raise his mentally ill child (my sister).
10. Gets drunk on the job while he's getting carer allowance to look after my grandmother. He gets paid to sit around getting shitfaced all day while he's supposed to be taking care of my nan.
11. Convinced my grand mother to write his other four siblings OUT OF HER WILL. Yeah. You read right. Because he's fed her a load of bullshit about how because he's always lived at home (like the fucking workshy man-child he is), he'll take care of the house and if they ever need to stay he'll let them stay.....fat fucking chance! That bastard is the reason my OTHER alcoholic uncle was on our sofa for three years - he wouldn't let him past the fucking door!
12. Has a problem with me having a sex life at aged 27, a fucking grown woman, no pun intended.
13. Told me as a ten year old, that my FIVE YEAR OLD sister (who was a difficult kid) could go to hell, and that "there are seven year old children in hell, NOW!" and I was made to feel like I had to save her from burning for eternity. I was terrified for her.
Today I decided not to sit in silence while he spouted a load of fundamentalist nonsense. I disagreed to the point where he was insulting me and storming out. ALL you have got to do is disagree with this moron. I broke down when he left and told my mum ALL the shit he used to say to me as a kid, I was crying which I don't easily. They never knew he said nobody would care if my sister died. Yet they still don't want to cut him off, for some bizarre reason.
As far as I'm concerned, repeatedly telling a child about people being tortured in hell, is fucking child abuse.
I disowned the guy today. I told my mum to tell him if she sees him, but she didn't want to. It sucks because he lives five doors away from us. I have no idea how and why this complete and total LOSER has gotten away with so much, but he has and I'm fucking sick of it.
Any input would be much appreciated. I would love to hear any opinions on what I should do, whether I'm right to walk away from him for good, if anyone else had problems with a relative like this and just any general input. Thank you for reading.
