(April 13, 2014 at 11:19 am)SteelCurtain Wrote: Rebecca, my advice would be to have the "L" word conversation early on, so there's no surprises. A good time for this, from a guy's perspective, is once you've had the "exclusive" conversation. Not to tell your significant other that you love them, but to tell him how that process works with you, how you develop those feelings. The troubles you have with trust, your history with falling in love (not the complete history, just a few telling examples.) Guys worth a shit value that kind of info. It's also a good barometer for whether a guy is worth your time.
The reason this would be good to know, is that if a guy truly cares for you, develops feelings of love for you, he will try to protect the relationship by giving a shit about how he goes about making those feelings known. I have scared women away by telling them that I love them too early or too abruptly. The feeling of emasculation when you get the equivalent of the "I love you....thanks?" response is unbearable to a young man. It's hard to look a woman in the eye after that. So knowing how to approach it was a phenomenal bit of info for me in my current relationship. It was, for sure, an awkward conversation. No one had ever prepped me for a conversation eighteen months in advance. But, let me tell you, I won big brownie points when I did it the right way!
Yep, it does seem awkward, but it's probably really god advice, and I will definitely try that if there's a next time. Thanks Steel
