(April 13, 2014 at 11:35 am)downbeatplumb Wrote: Have you considered that might be attracted to bastards.
I've seen women throw themselves at men who are obviously wronguns.
There's truth in this statement. One of the things I needed to really look at with my own dating patterns, is that I tended to try the hardest with the assholes. Hmmm...what does this say about ME? I'm not suggesting Rebecca, that that is you. lol I'm just saying, sometimes, we have to step back and reflect on why do I keep attracting jerks? And the reasons might surprise us, if we take the time to really analyze ourselves, not the other person.
I can't change jerks, but I can set up boundaries that don't allow jerks to stay too long in my life. A few years ago, I might have contacted the guy that you're dealing with, wondering what happened. Not anymore. If a man doesn't have the balls to at least say, hey...I want to see others, etc...then, keep it moving.
So, don't view this experience as a bad thing...view it as an opportunity to grow and learn from, and it takes sometimes being burned by a hot stove a few times, before we realize...hey, that stove is hot, I'm not going to touch it again!
Dating can be fun, but it's important to set up boundaries so you don't end up in a relationship with someone who doesn't value you.
Another hug cuz I'm in a hugging mood.
