(April 13, 2014 at 10:57 am)rexbeccarox Wrote:(April 13, 2014 at 5:35 am)FlyingNarwhal Wrote: It always breaks down to the sex. So, not to sound like a creep.....but what's going on with the sex?
I honestly thought it was great. I was thoroughly enjoying myself, anyway...
(April 13, 2014 at 5:59 am)downbeatplumb Wrote: I noticed one of them left a note saying he loved you, you said he'd expressed that before but you didn't say how you reacted.
The reason I mentioned this is that I have cut off relations with a girl who did not return my feelings.
If I make a big gesture of affection and there is no similar reply I leave to save myself.
Nothing worse than a one sided relationship.
The note was actually a thing he would do every one in awhile, and it took me a couple of solid ILY's from him for me to reciprocate, but I made very, absolutely positive he knew how much I loved him for the entire year we were a couple. When he dumped me out of the blue, I was completely shocked. I thought our relationship was as close to perfect as it got.
Thank you all... and I'm telling you guys: I know this stuff happens all the time, but in these cases, I'm doing something wrong or I'm not doing something right. It's just WAY too much of a coincidence that this happens with every single person I'm interested in since my ex of five years and I broke up six years ago.
How long do you typically wait at the start of a relationship before you have sex? The reason I ask is because a lot of men simply do what they think women want (saying I love you snookums and all the cutesy shit) in the interest of sex. And I don't think its always that they only care about sex, but I feel like a lot of guys mix up lust with love. And so what happens is they do what they think they are supposed to do, and then if the sex doesn't come quick enough (or once you've reached that stage, often enough) resentment builds. They feel like they are doing more than what they are receiving in turn. Because what your talking about where a guy just leaves and stonewalls you is not the normal approach for ending a relationship. That sounds like resentment to me.
