RE: What's Wrong With Me?
April 14, 2014 at 2:05 am
(This post was last modified: April 14, 2014 at 2:12 am by rexbeccarox.)
(April 13, 2014 at 1:32 pm)Faith No More Wrote: Well, I don't know if this is relevant or not, but when I was severely depressed, I had similar issues with my friends. In hindsight I realize that I was much more clingy that I thought, and it was a lot of work being my friend. I was also depressing to be around at times, so my friends would stay away from.
Perhaps your depression is driving them away? I'm not saying that must be it, but it's something to consider.
I think it's entirely possible, which is why I included it in my OP. I try to hide it, but I'm not entirely sure I'm successful at the task, and I'm not sure it's very good to be hiding it in the first place.
(April 13, 2014 at 3:34 pm)FlyingNarwhal Wrote: How long do you typically wait at the start of a relationship before you have sex? The reason I ask is because a lot of men simply do what they think women want (saying I love you snookums and all the cutesy shit) in the interest of sex. And I don't think its always that they only care about sex, but I feel like a lot of guys mix up lust with love. And so what happens is they do what they think they are supposed to do, and then if the sex doesn't come quick enough (or once you've reached that stage, often enough) resentment builds. They feel like they are doing more than what they are receiving in turn. Because what your talking about where a guy just leaves and stonewalls you is not the normal approach for ending a relationship. That sounds like resentment to me.
I'm pretty open to sex as long as I have confirmed with my partner that we're exclusive. I don't make them wait as a power play, but rather a commitment. I don't have sex unless there is one. I wish I could, but I have some trust issues, so I wait. But once we're having sex, I try to make it the best experience for us both.
(April 13, 2014 at 4:53 pm)CapnAwesome Wrote: Of course it's hard to say with limited information. It sounds like it's possible (although again hard to say) that you get involved with men who are pretending to be something they aren't. It wouldn't be a fault in your personality but maybe in the environment in which you meet men. A lot of the time the dating pool is full of fakers and players. How do you normally meet people?
Lots of ways! I tend to be out and about, and therefore I meet people. I'm starting to feel like Southern California is part of the problem. I can see how guys could be jaded, and therefore don't take women seriously here. It seems like a lot of women here want men for their money and baby-making skills.
