(April 22, 2014 at 2:22 pm)My imaginary friend is GOD Wrote:(April 22, 2014 at 1:13 pm)FlyingNarwhal Wrote: Women shouldn't be looked down on if they choose to be submissive in a relationship. Personally I don't believe there is a such thing as a 50/50 relationship, someone leads and the other follows. There are a lot of men today that choose to follow, it comes in the form of the "yes dear" mentality. Why shouldn't women too?
Well, I know that relationships can be 50/50 because I've seen it before. I think it's okay to follow someone else's lead when they know more about something than you do, just not all the time on every subject.
For the most part I think a lot of relationships have the illusion of 50/50, but someone defers mainly to the other person. It doesn't have to mean they are all 99/1 but I think 50/50 is something that is incredibly, incredibly unlikely. I think banking on being in a 50/50 relationship is like scratching lotto tickets in hopes that you can retire on the winnings. Both people in the relationship are different, even if they do share common interests/goals/likes/dislikes they will eventually come across things they disagree with and one person will get it their way most of the time. It's like if your walking down a narrow hallway and someone is coming the opposite way. When you meet you both move left and right to try and get out of eachother's way but just end up moving in the same direction and blocking the path of the other. In reality the simple solution is for one person to take charge and say "You stand on this side" so you both can keep moving.
