RE: Another example of the "gay to straight" myth
June 21, 2014 at 11:18 pm
(This post was last modified: June 21, 2014 at 11:20 pm by zanOTK.)
(June 21, 2014 at 10:52 pm)vorlon13 Wrote:(June 21, 2014 at 10:20 pm)zanOTK Wrote: Everything has a cause. And thus, with the right technology, can be cured. But, the real question is, does it need to be cured? It's within the realm of possibility to "cure" somebody of being white (we can't do it right now, but it's possible that we could one day). But why would you? It's their skin color, it's part of who they are. Now, if they felt like they'd be happier if they had a different skin color, then fine. But most people probably wouldn't do it.
A very good friend of mine has shared his experiences with being, as they say, 100% gay, and dating a man who slowly oscillates from 80% gay to 80% straight on a time scale of around 2 years to get back to where he started.
I don't know if it is that complex for you, but after what my friend has been through, he's found total honesty about where he is, his boyfriend being the same, has resulted in them making a go of it for several years.
His companion has been with women during their time together, it is my impression he is far less forthcoming with them, for some reason, and that has led to far more problems than anything else.
Maybe he has to be that way with women, I don't know if any would go with him if they knew, but considering the disasters that always result when he does it the way he does, I have to wonder.
I don't know if this helps, my thoughts are with you either way.
It's not that complicated for me. I'm more attracted to women than men, especially emotionally. With men it's almost entirely a physical attraction, although there have been a few men I was emotionally attracted to as well. Sadly, they were always straight. So I've only ever dated women, because I refuse to date someone I'm not emotionally attracted to as well.
I'd say the guy doesn't -have- to be with women as well. He could go through a period where he's attracted to women and not act on it because of his relationship, if he really wanted to. It's all about being devoted to that one person. Kind of what being in a relationship is all about.
(June 21, 2014 at 10:52 pm)Losty Wrote:(June 21, 2014 at 10:20 pm)zanOTK Wrote: Everything has a cause. And thus, with the right technology, can be cured. But, the real question is, does it need to be cured? It's within the realm of possibility to "cure" somebody of being white (we can't do it right now, but it's possible that we could one day). But why would you? It's their skin color, it's part of who they are. Now, if they felt like they'd be happier if they had a different skin color, then fine. But most people probably wouldn't do it.
This was actually my point, but you said it much more eloquently than I did
Lol, perhaps. But I wasn't smart enough to realize it was your point in the first place.
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