Spare the rod, spoil the child

[Thumpalumpacus]

Yeah, I've totally reported that page. People on there talking about using belts on their kids. I hope other people report it as well.

Fucking disgusting.


My two cents for what it's worth:

If you resort to spanking it just shows that you don't know how to control your kid. I honestly think people who do this should take a parenting class. I know Jacob said it would have made his particular scenario better. But that's bullshit. Better for who? You? Because you don't want spend the time on a kid who is just playing up? So you'd much rather resort to smacking them instead? Sure it'll stop the playing up, for now. But that kid isn't going to be any happier for it, and it should pretty obvious in this day and age that spanking is wrong. The reasons shouldn't even need to be discussed. People need to watch some god damn Supernanny. Parenting isn't always about telling a kid off when they're doing something wrong. How about actually giving them an incentive to be nice and polite. Positive reinforcement instead of negative correction. Most parents completely ignore that side to parenting and just resort to hitting them whenever the kid messes about. How is a kid going to get any better when they have no incentive or reward for being better. If the only thing the parent knows is spanking then the only thing the kid will do is be a little jackass in turn.

If the only thing you've gotten out of the comments here from those of us who have occasionally spanked our children is "the only thing [we] know is spanking", I'd suggest a closer rereading.

Also, the idea that "the reasons shouldn't even need to be disucssed" is interesting. It strikes me as a subtle attempt to insult the intelligence of those who disagree with you.

Here, here's a post I made on another forum about one time I used force with my son:

It is one option, not the only option, not the ultimate option. It depends very much on the child and what they value; it also depends on the urgency of the situation. I smacked my son's hand when he was four years old and reaching for a pan full of hot bacon greasse, because my smack was going to be much more forgiving than second-degree burns -- and taking the time to talk it out wasn't really an option.

Broad brushes aren't very useful for detail work, of course. But remember, the details are what make people behave as they do.

I think it's simplistic to say spanking bad or spanking good. It depends on the overall relationship, the age of the child, and other factors.

Bingo.