(July 16, 2014 at 3:14 pm)Luckie Wrote: I've seen a study recently that when given the choice between a shock or having 15 minutes to your own thoughts: more people chose the shock.
Making a kid think and discuss how they fucked up is, apparently, a worse punishment in the eyes of the child than a swat which is immediate resolution. I couldn't wait to get the spanking over with especially if we had to travel home or if I had to wait for dad to come home, to do so. I don't remember the swats themselves although I can count on one hand how many I got. I remember the anguish I was in until it was over with, mainly because it was more important for my parents to not be mad at me anymore. I remember a lot of obsessing about whether or not they were mad at me. Don't even remember why I got swatted.
Yeah, we use the timeout. Which is one of the things which upsets me. I agree that its a worse punishment than a swat which is immediately over.
Which is why I'd rather use the LESS severe punishment, the swat. Because I can remember it working very well indeed for me and if its less of an unpleasant punishment then I'd rather do that!
The thing I'd be looking for is the quickest and least unpleasant way to correct a behavior. If the swat on the back of the legs is less unpleasant than the timeout (and I'd agree with you that it is) and achieves the desired result (as I know that it can), would that not be a more preferable method? I often feel that the psychological methods, like time out, which I use are harsher than the physical ones. As many have said, not all harm is physical.
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Through passion, I gain strength.
Through strength, I gain power.
Through power, I gain victory.
Through victory, my chains are broken."
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